Submitted by ThrowRAahhthissucks t3_11sgzn1 in relationship_advice
This is my first reddit post ever, bear with me.
I have been with my fiance for almost 4 years now, we have lived togther for two years, and just signed a lease after moving to a new city a few months ago. This happen an hour ago and iv finally calmed down enough to write this.
When using my fiances computer today to download a pdf, I saw the most recent folder had my name so I saved it there thinking it was a specific folder for me. Nope. When I go to get my pdf I see a folder full of naked pictures of myself. Thinking the worst, I go up one folder to see 10 other womens names listed. Yes, all full of nudes. Some are exes, some are his female friends I didnt know he had any sexual relationships with, and others and women I dont even know. Im dont even know what to think at this point.
I have no idea how to confront him about this. We have had a healthy relationship, and I trust him completely (maybe less now), but we are always open about everything. We have a healthy sex life as far as I knew, and havent had any trust issues previously. I am unsure when these images were saved, were they sent while we were dating? I have no idea and dont really know computers well enough to know when they were saved. I dont even know if these other women are aware there a folders of them naked on his computer. I am not porn averse, and he even has a normal porn folder that I dont have any issues with. The fact he has exes and friends saved is whats killing me. I have to confront him about this and I have no idea how. I feel like this isnt normal to have friends and old exes nudes saved in neat little folders. Please help, how do I confront him and have a helpful conversation about this without screaming and crying