Submitted by Gullible-Brilliant14 t3_115vqex in relationship_advice
English isn't my first language, so i'm sorry for all the mistakes. Me and my boyfriend began dating at 16 and we hit our 2y anniversary recently. 6 months ago he left to study abroad, which made our relationship long distance. we had our ups and downs, but since our separation it became unbearable. He broke up with me about three times and yet he still was the one to make things up (i know for a fact that he didn't have any type of relationship with others at those times). Though, the latest breakup was the last straw for me. i found out that he has been sexsting with a girl for about 2 weeks, when i confronted him, he told me that he wasn't even attracted to her and he was doing those things just for me to read them and break up with him (he said that this case can't be considered cheating because he did it on purpose). I did, but now idk what to do, since he told me that he would like to have a relationship with me, but he doesn't want to do it long distance. He also mentioned that he might want to cheat on me in future "because he needs it physically". I was planning to move to the same country, but i don't know how long it will take to do so, also i don't know if it's worth it. I feel like i love him, but he doesn't treat me right, blaming it on the distance and stress. Is there someone who's been in same situation? Should i risk it, or just dump him? If so, how can i overcome the breakup? TLDR: my long distance bf denies cheating and asks me to move to his country
UPDATE: Thank you for all your support and kind words. I appreciate you all. We broke up for good. It's still difficult for me, but i do understand that this situation isn't healthy at all and i should move on. the whole thing had its influence on me, i lack motivation in doing anything at all, including food and hydration, yet i'm still hopeful that i will recover some day. being alone for the fist time in two years sucks, not having emotional support and validation is not that great, being jealous of someone who doesn't associate with you anymore is painful, but still better than being in a toxic relationship like this one. so far i'm trying to focus on my degree and learning how to be self-sufficient. i don't think i'm ready to hop into another relationship, but i will get there someday. idk if it's a good or bad ending, but things aren't always fair. you can't really change a person, he is who he is and always will be. despite that, i wish him well and have no anger or regrets whatsoever. it's time to grow up