Submitted by Advanced_Special_502 t3_115etzy in relationship_advice
My girlfriend and I have been together for 4 months now and things have been very well, I’ve had nothing to not trust her on nor be paranoid about, and we are both incredibly happy. She broke up with her ex last April and decided to stay friends with him, as they are part of the same friendship group. He is still very much in love with her and has forced himself on her at a party since their breakup, into which it did result in r***, and she has not seen him in person since that incident. Last night he messaged her about two tickets to a concert that he got her for her birthday last year, due to them now arriving in the post and if she still wanted them. I’m sure he is aware of me because he has seen us together and also through posts of us together on social media. He gave her quite a big paragraph, giving the whole ‘woe is me’ and guilt tripping her about how it’s okay if she wants to go with someone else, but this morning she told me that she was going to go with him because they are still friends and that the original plan was for them to go. I really don’t want to be that partner that tells her not to go, but my biggest concern is that if he has forced himself on her before, he can quite easily do it again. I’ve never once assumed I would be going, but I feel like she should either let him keep the tickets or go with a friend that is interested in the band as I feel like she is unsafe with him. She has also been messaging him all morning but I don’t want to sit behind her and peek because I respect her privacy and don’t want to make a deal about it. Thoughts?