Oh, and you definitely have COVID. Go apologize.

Welcome to adulting. Bf is either controlling, or knows you have substance abuse issues, and doesn't want you to get hurt.

Girls night in, glass of whatever and your favorite streaming service. If the house is in one piece the next morning, and you're fine, a few times a fortnight is fine for you.

Reverse things, see if in exchange for staying dry, your bf will give up something.

I agree

Because… I love her?

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Do you guys live together?

Have you talked to your wife about her libido? About changing meds and talking to a sex therapist maybe? I am sure you did but it doesn’t say in your post.

It feels like cheating because it is probably cheating, depending on how your wife feels about it. Different people have different boundaries, some are ok with open relationships and others are not ok with porn, so depends on where you two fall. Personally for me the line is crossed when you interact with the person and/or pay for it in a sea of free porn.

If you want to stay with your wife and not cheat then that would mean addressing the low libido. There are subreddits for people in dead bedrooms (but read those with caution since people can be salty and vindictive).

He can believe whatever he wants about drinking alone, he doesn't have to agree with your feelings on it, but he also shouldn't get to tell you what you are or are not "allowed" to do. He's not your owner.

>I don't want this relationship anymore.

I don't blame you. This is some bullshit.

>Am I overacting?

The perfect reaction to this is breaking up. Or ghosting. Take your pick.

Gay or porn addict or guilt after cheating or just fed up with you....who knows. If you are not having sex then he's just a friend now.

Have you tried offering to break up?

He often stays for a few nights at a time and sometimes talks about “making it work” in regards to him possibly having to move away - but despite that I’m inclined to agree. He never wants to go out and do anything. Whether that’s walking the dog together, grabbing lunch in town, or anything of the sort.

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Yes please

Are you being deliberately obtuse?

Don't ask for advice if you're going to argue with every single person who doesn't tell you what you want to hear.

This isn't a judgement sub. Did you want advice on how to talk to your partner and come to a compromise?

He's emotionally abusing you and is pretty unthoughtful. You are so young and you need to decide if this is what you want for the rest of your life.

2023-2019= almost 4 years of COVID (not your relationship)!!!!

PS: Relationships 101: If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.

Yeah, she did. She talked to a therapist, but homeotherapy help her the most. Also, her familiy is very supportive. But, it is a long way from being completly peacful in mind.

I get it, nothing is completly safe in life and anything can happen. But, that doesn't mean it shouldn't happen or at least to try. Just saying that threw me off the tracks and scared me a little bit. I'm afraid that nothing will be the same anymore. If break up happens, that's life, but to break up just because she thinks that she will hurt me is apsurd to me. We didn't break up, but those words are stuck in my head.

I see two issues.

1. His life plans fell through and now he's experiencing depression.

2. Your fundamental incompatibility regarding children.

The first one can be worked through if you want to. The second one, not so much.

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