Introverts will of course be at least halfway there anyways all the time.

So you have a Ph.D. in psychology and neuroscience then, and thus can rightly call your knowledge base significantly more extensive?

"Some of us" also need the opposite.

So your comment kind of contains its own refutation.

There "real cold hard truth" here is there is no one size fits all formula for everyone, and neither the OP's nor the person you are responding to's, are that formula, because it doesn't exist.

Tell me then how you would propose they could extricate themselves from that situation.

Or Voldemort

Because that’s such a viable option

I mean from the friends point of view you've randomly cut them off for no reason so it's actually you who's being a shitty friend in that situation. If you were a ''real'' friend, you'd explain that you wanted to spend some time working on yourself so you won't be around much instead of playing stupid games.

I tried that and died

Focus! https://youtube.com/shorts/vygisypL9fg?feature=share

I want this, but I can't afford it. I mean whoever can do this, is just so lucky.

I did this, bow I have two very good friends and the rest of my once extensive network dropped me.

I did fall into depression but if you push through it can work out, at least I hope 🥲

Lol if I had the money to "disappear for some time" then my "work" is already done.

Yeah, I mean you can't take anyone for granted except your parents ig. It's not like they were bad friends but suddenly disappearing and ghosting your friends is bad for you and people who know you. It's not that they didn't call or mail me, but they are also human beings they also have their own life going on and they can't be thinking about you all the time they have to let go at some moment of time. If you want to do it just don't go vanish in a day take your time, prepare yourself, solitude can be very challenging, you never know when you could need help.

You sound like a closeted critic, op.

What I’m trying to say is that every once in a while, it’s ok to say it to someone.

Say what you have to say

it's the best way to know who your real friends are. I mean it works like a friend filter. Those who decide to stay back and accept you after your disappearance are the ones who truly wanted to see you successful. They are your real friends, rest of them are the toxic ones that you don't need

I can dig that. The people that do the classes in my gym seem like they're pretty close from what I can tell, but for me the gym is the opposite. I'm the director of an engineering team that oversees 25 employees and my Google Cal looks like a game of Tetris, so that one hour a day where I know with 99.99% certainty no one can bother me is absolutely sacred time between my 7 am - 9 pm day.

This is why I don’t like going to the gym. I love meeting new people and talking to people. It’s SO lonely going and not making eye contact especially while doing the dreaded cardio. A good conversation can make 45 minutes seem like 10. Otherwise 45 minutes seems like 3 hours.

"Drop all your social contacts. Act like you're doing it to improve. Expect to be welcomed back no problem."

I'm currently working on this, I have about 34 lbs more to lose

Socially isolated myself , what's next ?

What about us underweight folks ( dare i say malnourished ) ? 🥲

Count of Monte Cristo in a nutshell

Don’t let her speak for you, then. You could answer the question yourself.

I’m gonna do it

Sometimes “lessons” are just baggage.