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_No_Pain_No_Gain t1_jdgoe6q wrote

Reply to [Text] Nobody at the gym is judging you for your weight. And if anyone does, they are so much worse than the worst you could possibly think about yourself. by lazybear90

Oh Yeah! I am strongly certain of what you say and heard it before. Nobody judged me in the gym. Never saw anybody judging another. Only coaches guiding people.

I was unlucky enough to have a family member who is a gym shark to try to put me down. But he is very one in a million exception. And a test for my mental endurance and optimism. But I am still strongly sure and agreeing with your post.

In case someone asks how he tried to put me down, once I was eating my chicken steaks. I used to be a scarce eater and my family knew it. And the bastard asked me "it isn't typical for you to eat meat". I said, things change. He asked "Is it because you changed or someone gives you ideas? Most certainly the second." I asked him a counter question, "What's wrong with eating chicken?", He said "Nothing." That's how I shut his mouth.

Out of spite of the hardship I faced, I remain an optimistic believer and share your point.

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TheReal-Darthdoom t1_jdglp9k wrote

Reply to [Text] Nobody at the gym is judging you for your weight. And if anyone does, they are so much worse than the worst you could possibly think about yourself. by lazybear90

I can kinda see this, people who are more fit than you (in my experience) never judge you for your weight) it's always people you outwork, who aren't as fit as you, who aren't as strong as you that judge you which was also in my experience, with the somewhat exception of one person (he was stronger than me but I was more fit) came up to me, poked at my stomach and said "I thought you went to the gym, why you fat?" I snapped with "you should not be talking about fat"

Note: yes the comeback felt good but I'm actually against body shaming, I do my best not to body shame (even if I do it sometimes jokingly or not) because I also get body shamed and trust me, it's not a good feeling to have and I learned that it's numbing, destroys your confidence and such

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Emperor_Kael t1_jdgg2hi wrote

Reply to Do you have to be unhappy now for success in the future? [Discussion] by TreatThompson

I think the best way is to try and treat happiness as a choice instead of at the mercy of ur brain juices. For example, saying I feel my body is getting stronger versus I'm tired and sore from that workout can have really positive impacts.

So in that way, when you're working towards success, you can define your journey as giving you happiness. And perhaps it might not truly be at first but it just might after a while.

To achieve it requires mindfulness; to be aware of your own thoughts.

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justasmalltowndad t1_jdgegdz wrote

Reply to Do you have to be unhappy now for success in the future? [Discussion] by TreatThompson

One way I think of it is: at any given moment, I'm either a success or not. Am I at the gym, working out? Then I'm a successful gymgoer (because I'm doing what a successful gymgoer would be doing)

Whether I have a six pack or not, I need to be at the gym 3 times a week. So then the measure of success is no longer the six pack, it's the actual way I'm spending my time. If I'm doing my best, I'm just as successful in that moment as Arnold is when he's at the gym. (or insert whatever bodybuilder is your hero) same goes for every area of your life.

Plenty of millionaires have days where they wake up at 8 am, eat breakfast, chill out on YouTube, run to work late, get bored in meetings, scroll reddit, head home, and play video games... Are they successful? They for sure won't be if EVERY day is like that.

The success doesn't come from the million dollars. It comes from how you spend the majority of your time.

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neonlace t1_jdge2uu wrote

Reply to [Image] Work on yourself by Fearless_Girlfriend_

Done this before. Doing it now, will do again.

Hearing ‘you’ve changed’ or any other comment that attempts to reframe growth as some sort of departure from your ‘true self’ as they ‘knew you’ is your first sign that you’ve evolved past their comprehension.

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