Sorry this does not motivate me, every scar is still open and bleeding. A life full of pain follows when scars dont heal.

ah - meaning and purpose. There, that's putting your finger on it. Being dissatisfied with where you're at is one thing and I agree, it's 100% motivating to be dissatisfied and it certainly helps to then align yourself to improve. Once you've also figured out what your purpose is, that when you're working towards achieving that outcome, that's 100% chef's kiss great.

I struggled with it for a really long time, until I had something of an epiphany pretty recently, actually - one of the key things I found was the need to get rid of my bad habits. I was drinking too much, I had bad habits with food, I was still being pretty comparative between other people and what they had.

I stopped drinking. I eat right. I exercise a lot. I know that I'm here to deliver kick ass projects and to help other people in achieving the same thing. I live for my family and what they need. There's nothing else - there doesn't need to be anything else, because all of those are infinite and can continnue for as long as I'm here on the planet.

Unpopular opinion: I’m tired of being called strong and being strong.

Sometimes I wish the world would just be nicer so I wouldn’t have to be so strong

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Could also have come from Mr Dyson....

Don’t repress them, just put them in a nice video game

You have to establish your boundaries very early on.

Your family, kids, parents, spouse, friends, employers, society will try and claw more than you offer.

But you have to respect your boundaries and firmly communicate them with everyone.

It doesn't have to be bad, it's an act of sacrificing the present/delaying gratification for a future reward. Ideally you express gratitude to your past self when you get the reward, as they made your life easier, and then pay it forward to your future self 😄

As for the fisherman story, I think most people are like him and would rather relax more and that's alright. Other people really enjoy developing things and that's alright too.

Some of these posts are not helpful lmao

Just make sure you're not living in Florida... or Alabama... or Oklahoma... They don't like people who change.

I did this, and, somehow, they kicked me out of the police force.

Go figure people... 😕

Instead of comparing yourself to others, try to see yourself in others. You are your anecdotal understanding that those feelings are not unique, they are simply present. Be secure in knowing everyone is insecure.

So, the more you feel your feelings ... what happens?

Charles Bukowski. He’s one of the greats.

you're actually talking about rationalizing those feelings (i.e. finding their source; differentiate between different feelings/stress, tring to accept them and deal with them if necessary etc.), which is most likely what CAJ meant

just feeling those feelings won't do this for you

Haha "No Pain, No Gain" indeed! I've been having the same thoughts as OP for quite some time. For me personally, moving along the path towards an always distant goal is an "enjoying of life" on itself. The only downside of this is constant comparing yourself to the other people. Especially of the same age. Stop doing this is hard or even impossible😅

This is a great perspective and might be the most practical and one I align with the most

Pursuing growth definitely gives meaning and purpose

Thanks for sharing this, it was really well said 😄

Also happy that you’re seeing progress in 3D modelling—it seems like such a painstaking hobby. But I’m sure looking back at what you’ve created is so rewarding

Perhaps it does, but the written instructions, to me, are saying the key is simply to feel the feelings more. Personally, I don’t think that’s enough. More detailed instructions including intentional thoughtfulness would be my preference. This image seems to suggest that’s an automatic result of feeling more, and I disagree.

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When you're not healthy, you are less capable of dealing with live than other people. So you are weaker. Like, I actually have a toothache right now and I feel pretty weak.

I tend to look at it from a different angle.

If you have all that you want, life begins to feel empty. Yes, it feels amazing to finally reach my goal, but once it's done... then what? It's just there and you're just there.

Working towards your goal on the other hand often means improving yourself bit by bit. Doing something you couldn't have done yesterday. It's not only about suffering now for the sake of tomorrow, but also celebrating what you can do by, well, doing it.

I walk up and down the stairs of my apartment building as a form of excercise. 17 floors up and down. When I started I could barely make it up and down once before having to catch my breath. Now I can go 4 times up and down. That's an improvement alright. I was making a 3D model of a sword as a hobby. At some point I decided to remake it from scratch and it took me about a week to recreate a month of previous work. I advanced in that skill even though the model is not yet ready.

Sometimes all you need is to look back and admire the path you've already covered. If you cannot see the finish line it doesn't mean you're still at the start.

This is basically The Color Monster

https://www.amazon.com/Color-Monster-Story-About-Emotions/dp/0316450057

Perhaps, but that's not the same as "weak", either. Also, when it's that extreme it absolutely needs a competent mental health professional handling it, not a layperson or moralizer (punisher, like in a jail, where they deliberately deny people treatment as a way to exact "society's just retribution" upon them, something I'd rather undermine.).

I've never will understand. I don't even want to be strong, like it's not something I value. And also, there are many weak people.

Ah yes, my favorite feeling "safe"