This doesn’t make sense.

If you do a lot of hard work, the distance between success and failure is small. But you still fail.

If you are a long way from success, your hard work is small? Is that past hard work? Future hard work? Optimal current level of work?

This dude needed to work harder (or possibly less hard?) on his sentence structure. Because he failed.

I'd like for you to elaborate

Failure is crucial to learning, it helps build the foundation of knowledge. You are succeeding at learning methods that are ineffective at accomplishing what you want. You know what NOT to do, and reflection helps understand WHY it did not work for you. Now you have personal experiences you can share with others who are also seeking what you want, you can share with them what methods did not work for you and in the process work together to accomplish similar goals :)

This is easily the hardest part for me. Getting there. For anything. If I can talk myself into leaving the house it will generally be OK, but that ain't easy.

Shoshaku jushaku

What if you keep failing to overcome things you think you maybe can?

Doing nothing can be considered a mistake. In a way, someone who does nothing is just doing one contnious mistake.

That, of course, depends on how you define "does nothing."

It's common in Slavic languages, but it looks odd in English. There's so many commas in my language that I silently rebel by omitting a few, hoping that the grammar rules change.

The contrast thing is only to stretch your perspectives, it's not about good or bad, it's about understanding other perspectives and the minute shades of grey that you might eventually see. Regarding extremes, it takes time, DBT is Dialectal behavioural therapy, but the more important part is the word: DIALECTAL, because it sums up to two truths, because two things can be true at the same time, someone can be irresponsible and kind, or mad but mean well. This is something that takes time to practice and focus on, it's taking me 3 years, and I'm probably 50% there. And positivity isn't always good, sometimes it's better to see bad and understand that it's bad. If you're always happy, you're in denial or perfect, and I trust neither, but if you're happy and sad at times, that's the only thing that's reasonable. Quick last note. Practice doesn't make perfect. It makes permanence. Remember that till you pass.

ACTION: Less game/screen time, be sober more often, literally do any type of anything that requires you to move your body, with effort.

Try to be good at something—a hobby, or being better than your competition. Then get better at it. Youtube it, research it, think of it. Soon you’ll develop ideas around it that you can contribute to make it better. You’re building this amazing thing and getting meaning from it, oh hey! You’re building you!

Good luck, 47.

Don’t gotta sell your soul either, make time to enjoy yourself and company with others you like

to the gym.....

Oh Yeah

I like to call it the Walken comma

Truly an inspiration to the rest of us.

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To get the proper coloration, I would recommend hourly.

Whenever the algorithms ask me if I am successfull in life i reply - I Am marineEdgeLord

That last bit 🙌

Works for me at work

I enjoy your post and specifically these two thoughts:

1. Allowing self to enjoy the day can be difficult, so even that as an objective is worthwhile
2. The mental contrast thing. I am for sure a black-and-white thinker but I usually only stay on black or white- and not go to the other side. Even if I can see both sides, the “other” side is out of reach or impossible sounding in my mind. But I read somewhere once that people can either think “everybody hates me” or “everybody loves me” and both are equally delusional and untrue*. And goes to show that extremes aren’t usually reality and don’t serve us very well. Will work on finding the middle ground, the gray area. I like that sentiment. Thank you for the reminder.

• Ps if we’re gonna be delusional at times- may as well believe the positive side and not negative one!

I'm glad to see that everyone else thought this post was absolute nonsense. 🤣

What's your day to day life like? Do you have a routine? Do you exercise, within your capability, at all?

As opposed to the top comment here I found that actually listening to the things people say I 'should' do and doing them actually does help. Duh. I felt like an idiot when I started doing those things and feeling better, but that's OK. I've been wrong before and I'll be wrong again. I'm in a similar boat to you and still have things to work on but feel great about life at the moment which can be an overwhelming feeling. It's strange.

What I'd say is work on small things. Routine wise wake up at the same time every day. I'm no scientist but from the studies on the circadian rhythm etc everything shows this will help. Going to bed at a similar time or the same time every night will help but as I said let's start small. Get one thing right and your taking a great step. Ideally a 'normal' time aswell, reasonably similar to what everyone else does. Will put you in a position to do things with others, get a 'normal' job shift wise.

Eat regularly, again something I still struggle with to this day, but it's better recently.

And lastly exercise is wonderful. Now I not going to say go to the gym. Oh geez you won't find me there! But again start small. Can you do one exercise? For one body part. Don't worry about these work out plans, or mega challenges. Start with one exercise, sit ups/push ups/ bicep Curls if you or your husband have weights laying around. Anything. Something you can do to get your blood pumping a little bit. That you can stick to, and make and see progress. This all worked for me though I still have issues waking at the same time. I'm working on it!

Love this perspective

Lol

Ugh fine I’ll go to work today