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I'm pulling this from John Vervaeke and people like him.

People need a meaning in their lives. The things people find that are most meaningful are things which matter to the person, but also things to which the person matters. That's why having kids is so often a meaningful thing. They're super important to you, but you're literally everything to them. (Not to say you should have kids or whatnot, just an example)

So you've gotta figure out how to add meaning to your life. What do you care about? Think it's awful that families can't put food on the table? Start volunteering at food banks or soliciting donations for them, work yourself into an important position at an organization that helps with the problem. You'll probably find that meaningful.

Think it's a shame that a lot of kids don't have a proper role model? Become a big brother / big sister and make a difference for a kid like that.

Nobody can really tell you what you'll find meaning from, but the formula is pretty simple. Find something that matters to you. Make yourself matter to that thing.

Remembering that I am ill and doing my best every day. Some days are just harder, that’s all.

If you had another chronic disease (pick one) and you couldn’t do much, would you be so hard on yourself?

Be kind to yourself and keep trying. There will be victories.

You are not alone, OP But here is a virtual hug 🫂 Life got a little hard lately There is nothing called wasting my life You need to work on all your life situations that are causing you to be miserable. Why do you feel you wasting your life ( analyzing what kind of mental distortions leading to this) I had the same kinda thinking what my therapist called balck and white thinking which made me a perfectionist and having unrealistic life standard on my self 🤔

We are not though. No one out us here, we are just chemistry replicating itself in more and more complex ways as time goes on. The universe does not care about you, in fact it doesn't care about anything. If everything dissapears tomorrow, nothing would remain and no one would care. But you do, we do. Go make your own purpose, and for the sake or practicality, pursue your own purposes in ways that don't stop others from pursuing theirs. Cooperation is a good tool even if your only goal were to be your own happiness.

So find something that feels good. Something fulfulling, maybe something to sustain yourself while you pursue other sources of fulfillment, do whatever.

When you die, you won't care. You only care while you live, so make of life what you want from it.

Pro Tip:

Pick whether you want to overcome a deficiency or amplify a strength.

Strength comes from epics, as well as resilience!

Strength comes from getting out of your comfort zone.

This is a smart play on words

And sometimes depending on where one is in life that small thing could be making that appointment they’ve been putting off. Or just getting up and taking a shower. Cleaning part of your apartment/room, etc.

Exercise helps me a lot with this. Running mostly and some push ups/sit ups/ pull ups / bar dips

For me I find it easier to work through mental tasks while occupying myself body and mind in intense labor like this.

It also is scientifically proven to reduce stress hormones in your body which are directly linked to anxiety and depression

Also also, you’ll look and feel better all the time and so constantly have just a little more confidence

Also also also, if absolutely nothing else is going well for you and you still stay disciplined and follow your exercise plan there is always that “at least I did this” mentality. And since most people dont work out at all any amount means you’re putting more effort in to at least this one thing than most people.

I don’t think anyone knows what that obscure word means 🤔

My dad used to describe (work) life as walking up to the edge of a cliff, hanging your toes off the edge, then doing the same thing the next day.

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Oh God...

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This is neither motivational nor plausible.

You pass butter.

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What if my purpose is to pass butter?

11. Fecal flossing daily?

Is it still considered bravery if one latibulates upon arrival?

Hey! 24 people here

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"We can do whatever we want, nothing matters."

My philosophy is that experiencing life is the whole point. You cant "waste" it by doing one thing rather than the other. Nothing has inherent value over anything else. What you can do is waste time doing things that dont make you feel good.

This often leads to people thinking they should do nothing but leisure activities, like you brought up. But you already see the flaw in that. We live in human bodies that are programmed to desire purpose and usefullness to the community. Avoiding that to chase leisure 24/7 (and becoming rich enough for that lifestyle) is the source of people feeling like they are wasting their life imo.

But that's just like my opinion, man. I would recommend you sit down and write out what exactly your brain wants you to do and why. What type of person or goal would you be interested in working towards? Not one that society perscribes (aka: degree, family, kids, highest paying job possible, retire, die) but something that provokes a real emotional reaction. Listing out the responsibilities you mentioned avoiding and examining those would be a good start. Listen to what your emotions are guiding you towards.

Easy example from me: Had 8 years in the military and would have pension if I stayed another 12. Extremely easy job, but felt like shit the whole time. The advice from everyone around me was to just stick it out because the job had great benefits and retirement. Instead I quit and went from a highly valued job to delivering pizzas. Almost the exact opposite of what US culture would advise. But I hadnt felt better mentally since middle school.

That kind of planning can be hard in the middle of depression, so you may need to focus on eliminating stressors first. I had a huge personality shift and change in desires after I got out of my depression and stopped suppressing emotions.