I used to feel like that and then one day I remembered the lady I wanted to be when I was a kid and just be her. It works pretty well. I struggle with the fact that there are so many out there who don’t think about that at all, like my dad. He sits in the same chair 12 hours a day, doing accounting. Going on 35 years he’s been doing that. Very little joy.. very absent sense of humor. Also, I got a Rottweiler. She has saved me from eternal misery and hazardous conditions of loneliness. She follows me everywhere I go, and she would die for me.. that’s a trip. You should think about getting a dog , or cat, or even if you like gardening and plants. You need reminders of life, and being responsible for the animals or plants will give you purpose.

My dog actually had puppies and we have one left. He’s 4 months old, and he is the sweetest damn dog I’ve ever met. He would make a great companion. Try convincing your dog that your life is insignificant.. or being wasted. You won’t be able to.

Get a dog and remember you’re not alone.

I love a motivational slogan that's just absolute bollocks.

Such a great movie, Panda is very motivational as a character.

"There is no charge for awesomeness"

What has always helped me is perspective. I remember the past, how hard shit used to be, and where I come from. I remind myself how absolutely fucked my life and my loved ones lives would be back in the country we came from, not having a university to attend. In the states, I remember working as a food runner and being treated like absolute garbage by the head chef. I remember working quick service at Disney and the floor being so slippery from the grease that I had to walk in an unnatural way so I developed back pain. It is so much better now and remembering how much it sucked makes me thankful!

Hello, my fellow redditor. Let me start with a question: When you are judging yourself do you compare yourself to others? Stories of famous people? Instagram people? Recently it’s the core of depression on most of people, I mean comparing to others on social media. Their life looks fly and easy. I try to see the other side, where many people live worse life than I am. And many people in the world dream of my lifestyle. They just want to achieve peace and little stability at least. And I focus on these achievements and praise myself for them. Then recently I started to let myself think what do I really want. Not comparing to others, not trying to get their acceptance. Some of my dreams are too hard to reach, but some are very real. And I am working on them, it brings me joy. I hope when I reach these small targets I would be able to start following my bigger dreams. I am sharing my own humble experience. Hope it is helpful. Peace

Pure Gold ♥️👌

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Tell yourself that "What I choose to do is my CHOICE and it's not wasted."

Something that was life changing for me was realizing, no matter what im doing, who i am with, how hard the task is, how annoyed im getting, how impatient i am, how much im overthinking, or on the flip side, no matter how much of a good time im having, time is still ticking and ticking away, and that time ticking is your life…., i know that sounds scary.

But look at it this way. What i am doing now, is trying to enjoy EVERY moment for what it is, and being totally present at the same time. Yeah some moments will bother you, some may piss you off, some may make you sad, but being present in every moment and accepting your current emotions as they are is what life is all about. And yes on top of that we all need goals, ambitions, a schedule. But if you can just totally be present with your current task, rather than being overwhelmed and thinking about your next 5 tasks before you finished that one, or being at work and being miserable wishing you were home, just enjoy work for what it is since its apart of your current life. (Just examples obv work may not wven be a problem for you)

I hope all this makes sense. And trust me its easier said than done, a basic rule of thumb is the less you think about the past and future and just focus on your current moment, and making your current moment as best as it can be, it will be life changing. One last rule of thumb is THINK less and DO more.

I am saving this. Thank you so much for sharing ❤️

Do not agree at all with this. I know many (including myself) that have worked hard relentlessly only to fail. Failing is fine and all, but don’t say hard work will lead to success

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This song seems applicable here.

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Time enjoyed is not time wasted

Unfortunately, even in your "dangerous mistake" question, you're still asking for too general an answer. I haven't currently found any, that I think would work as a general rule of thumb. The closest might be to remember that how you think you're impacting other people, and how you're actually impacting them, are not always the same thing.

>but basically you only have so much time in a lifetime so if you spend the whole thing until you're dead and failed that's the extreme

Who cares what you did, at that point? You won't even be around to define success and failure, anymore. So defining success and failure, at that point, doesn't really seem to be a meaningful thing to do, if that makes any sense. I'd maybe set my goals more short/intermediate term.

What is success? What is failure? What is wasting time?

"Dangerous mistake" in this context would be something that, say, harms another in a real way, or that puts you at a risk of serious (possibly physical) harm, and that you could have avoided with more careful, informed, and rational thought.

"Wasting valuable time" / "too much time": yeah, that's much more grey, but basically you only have so much time in a lifetime so if you spend the whole thing until you're dead and failed that's the extreme, but even before that we have the inevitabilities of things like aging, changes to the world, and so forth that may cause the goal's achievability to recede from you or become less relevant if you dally too long in getting there.

SO MUCH YES to the blip about I usually feel this when I’m in a bad mood, and only when I’m in a bad mood. Definitely me today, definitely why I’m happening to post on a bad mood day. Lol And yes. Thinking clearly IS really fucking hard. I really like your comment, it gives me a lot to think about. Thank for your taking time to write such a detailed reply.

You do a LOT by providing for not only yourself but your family. That is such an honorable thing, and sounds like you may have been doing it for many years. Thank you for taking care of other people and loving your family in this way 🙏

Exactly, man. Also yeah, my mom is amazing. I do take it too much for granted sometimes, though. But at the end of the day, I love her more than anything and I know she loves me the same. That's all that matters. Love to ya ♥️

Thank you for sharing, man. What you wrote is true. It’s all true. I am turning 30 in 6 months and 2 days and it’s blowing my mind. I think it’s exacerbating the mindset as well- like i ~should~ be doing something else with my life and I’m wasting it / it’s unremarkable etc. Life is too short.

Also, I am so glad you have a mama who loves you ❤️ we probably take that for granted too much but we’re so lucky in that regard.

My husband gets told all the time he looks like Keanu Reeves 😂 I got a bit distracted from the rest of your comment at first. But anyways, I think that’s the thing I’m missing. Not knowing really what matters. I mean, family- yeah. But then like …..?????????????

Define dangerous.

Define wasting valuable time. Define too much.

Answers to these questions are situation specific, unfortunately, not generalized.

As to your last question, it unfortunately also depends on the situation, and got much you're over thinking it.

Thank you for the reminder. “Live every day like it’s your last” is so cheesy but also- so true.