Its not a waste, because it's my life & no one is living it second to second, moment to moment like I am. I'm not saying others aren't living, but they aren't livingYOUR life. Success is as subjective as the same patch of grass two people are looking at, describing it's shade of green they see.

Every day time marches on. For better. For worse. For niether. Where should you be? Hell if I know. I recently lost nearly everything I cared about due to a freak accident. Should I keep dwelling on if this or maybe that had happened differently, things wouldn't be like this? No. Wanna know why?

It's because I cannot change how any of that happened, how anyone else saw it or me during the recovery. I can't go back. Niether can you. I hate hearing the advice I'm about to give because of how "I need a real answer that makes 100% sense right now" I get when emotionally swept up, but when not angry there is another way of looking at it.

Do something. Anything. Change is constant, nothing truly remains the same, ever. My answer to your question of "is this all there is?" is a flat no. Things may seem similar, some things may feel identical to something that has already happened... but it's not. Ever, for example, think about a litter of kittens? Are any of them gonna be the same or similar? If one goes astray & never sees the rest again, does that one have to end up like it's kin? Will it? Together still in a happy family, or is it's life gonna be on the street? Is it worse off or better? How do the kittens who didn't vs the one alone know of the other's reality? They don't.

Do something you like. If that doesn't work, try something different. Life is ever changing, you could be too if you do it. It seemed like a "I could have had a V8" moment when it clicked that we enjoy life by Doing Things. What things? Any things. Every things. Will even this answer only satisfy me for a little while because depression doesn't just go away? Yeah. Then I'll remember this thought process when I've come out of feeling that way & keep walking just like I did a thousand times already. Stagnation is doing nothing, so avoid it & do something, preferably engaging & positive. If it helps others? Bonus. Keep walking, we're not dead yet.

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Something that has helped me, and may help you, is changing the way you look at things. When I am at my lowest, it really helps to take the things you already do every day and call it self-care. Brushing your hair and teeth. Showering. Eating a meal. Whatever it is for you, try changing how you talk about it with yourself. Taking care of yourself feels good, so try reframing it from things you have to do, into things you want to do.

Also, it's okay to enjoy leisure time. You do not have to be productive 24/7. Doing things that you like and want to do is okay, and it's okay if you put other things off to do those things. It may help you to make a list of all the "productive" things you want to do. Whatever they may be, try and work on one every day. You don't have to finish a task every day, and several tasks may take months or years (getting a degree, buying a car or house, etc). But it feels good taking the first step to do something. Do you need new glasses? Take the first step and make an appointment. Yay, you did something productive!! Breaking things down into manageable pieces really helps.

One last thing. It's easy to fall into the trap of comparing yourself to your peers. Don't. You are on your own journey, they are on theirs. You have had completely different opportunities and circumstances than every single other person on the planet, and you have done the best you can with the knowledge you had to get where you are today. You are doing great, even if it doesn't feel like it right now. Keep trying to do your best every day - and your best isn't the same every day. You got this!

One of my biggest fears is missing out in a lot of different experiences in my life and to combat that feeling I’ve been experimenting and just letting go of any bad thoughts i have, it’s been hard but I believe fulfillment is not about a destination or end goal it’s all about the journey.

Was going to post something like this. This is ironically the most rage filled sub I subscribe to. Like damn people, if it ain’t your cup of tea… move on. Go find something that makes you feel motivated or joyous. Screeching into the online abyss certainly will not be the thing that brings you comfort - from a person who once thought screeching into the online abyss would bring me fulfillment

Change your subconscious mind. Currently reading Og Mandino Greatest Salesman In the World. Also I listen to Dauschy meditation while I fall asleep and in my sleep. I still have days where I feel completely void inside but part of me feels like I am changing. I managed to consistently brush and floss, go into the gym , go to a bhangra dance class , and ready to pick up more habits.

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Usually I’m the Debbie Downer, but I thought this was nice to hear. It sounds like a good saying without any context.

Also some of y’all belong in the r/2meirl4meirl with us miserable fucks (including myself) instead of here lol. Or r/2meirl42meirl4meirl for the advanced gamers.

This!

Imagine not reading this every week

For those who don't know, this saying wasn't made up for this movie. This saying was said by Eleanor Roosevelt.

A few things that helped me a while back, first of all was starting to ignore what I thought I ‘should’ be doing according to others.

Second was just engaging and working harder on the day to day, and interesting things grew out of that.

I didn’t create some master plan, I just starting to be more assertive and dedicated to the small stuff (like my work, studies at the time, friends, family, even cleaning, etc.) and it opened up unexpected doors.

I guess the thing that can be scary when you think you’re in a rut is, how do I get out of it. It can be almost paralyzing.

But it’s not so hard to just take small steps, day by day. It’s amazing how far, and where, it takes you.

I’m so sorry about your struggles. I appreciate your reply and vulnerability in sharing ❤️

I liked it

I wish I had a good answer to this. I thought I’d at least comment and say I have had a lot of the same thoughts lately. I’m putting a lot of effort into therapy and trying to navigate my way into a healthier mindset, yet I can’t seem to shake the often overwhelming shame around my life not panning out as I had hoped and worked so hard for. My social circle has dwindled to a couple of people, I spend most of my time at home since I work from home and have very little in the way of fulfilling hobbies. My wife and I have not been able to have children and have had two miscarriages in the last year. I had wanted to be a father more than anything.

Anyways, I’m right here with you friend. Know that as you fight these battles there are others fighting similar and you are not alone.

Man, nothing is ever good enough for this subreddit. This is such a good quote from an awesome movie that tells us to stop overthinking about what was and what will be, and, instead, focus on the present.

This is not a cure for depression or anxiety, this is a thought to reflect upon.

Volunteering and being productive really helps. I find if I have a list of things to do or help around the house to keep busy makes me feel better. Having hobbies helps as well. Learn a language, knit a blanket, or run a mile. There are many long term and short term goals I want to hit within my hobbies.

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Prob the same as I'm doing now, I really enjoy uni and made some great friends, maybe a bit less on my phone that's about it

Wow thanks I'm cured

Oogway really the goat

Exactly. Things tend to get worse in reality.

So deep, I guess it means that I would never find my unlimited potential if I don't try.

Honestly i don't know, but I'll follow for ideas a

Whoever gave it to me either has a very sick sense of humour or hates me with a burning passion.